自然與我快樂起來

每天都給自己一個地方去, 不論去圖書館, 去行山, 去琳那邊做義工, 像要給自己達成一個任務。然後, 時間就沒那麼難過了。 傷心還是會有的。輔導說我對自己太harsh了, 要公平一點。 如果之後順利找到工作, 能獎自己一些什麼東西嗎? 例如一個人去個旅行、吃個什麼大餐。 或者不用等到找到工作, 也能獎勵自己吧! 近來點子好多, 有一些有開始, 有一些不會開始, 有一些不知道會不會有個開始。 ．　．　．　 我就是能好好的活下去的，屌！〔突然激動〕

近日覺得頭髮有點厚實, 於是到櫃員機領了錢, 即興地去找髮型屋。 輾轉盤算價錢和可能接受到的服務態度, 最後來到以往去過的一家社企髮廊。 Walk-in的客人似乎是要被分派的, 那位接待處的小弟弟就逐位髮型師問。第一個女髮型師正在幫客人染髮, 搖頭。第二位男的也正幫客人剪髮, 望了望大鐘, 再答小弟弟。小弟弟回來告知, 等二十分鐘。本來我在門外瞄入去是想看看會否有機會能找到那位女髮型師, 難得我那般即興, 沒有糾葛, 又不用等太久, 便說好。 我力抗店裡播放的教會歌曲, 嚐試投入在電波少年的「朋友日記Part 2」。沒多久, 髮型師來了。 髮型師望了望, 向我的頭抓了抓, 問上次的髮型也是類似的嗎? 我答差不多, 只是後面長了, 就大概修了一下(其實是媽媽幫我修的)。 不料他說, 這樣子的修剪, 也可算求其了。 跟著再討論一下這次怎剪。 他又說, 是的, 我肯定你上一次不會是在這裡剪的, 因為我們沒可能忍受這樣子的修髮腳方式。 他預備幫我後面鏟青, 做少少bob, 前面尖下去。 他問:「ok嗎?」 「可以。」 「你都幾大膽喎!」 大膽兩字從來未曾在我身上透現過, 驚嚇之下隨便擠出一個反應: 「都ok嘅, 一向對剪什麼髮型都沒什麼概念。」 剪刀就如此下了。 剪著剪著, 他提及這裡快在一個月後便關店, 並搬回西灣河的總店。 難得遇到說我大膽的髮型師。過了良久, 我忍不住問, 那你也會過總店嗎? 會的, 是整間公司收掉搬回去。 剪到五成, 他突然說:「我覺得你剪完這個髮後該去照張相。」 吓? 跟著便去沖水。 對於洗頭, 我一直最怕遇到那些好粗魯的人。對我來說, 去剪頭髮已經壓力超大的, 一來是使錢, 二來是不知道剪成怎樣, 三來是本身髮型屋的氣氛就是讓我十分十分的緊張。每當洗頭時, 水花四濺, 毛巾亂擦, 又要在沒戴眼鏡的情況下在人多擠迫的地方來回, 我就覺得好緊張, 而記憶中至今只有試過幾次是能放鬆心情的。 當初這裡的洗頭助理都是年青人, 外型前衛, 卻難得地有禮貌。但今次的並不是小妹妹, 而是有一丁點年紀的妹妹, 她看來有不少經驗, 最重要是待客有道, 語氣亦很親切自然。除了動作輕柔, 她會用心的詢問我會不會這樣那樣, 而且會提我小心台階, 也會問我沒戴上眼鏡會否看不清楚。 有時候回想, 每次去髮型屋都...

Idea at the House, Sydney Opera House Religion For Atheists by Alain de Botton Summary Alain kicked off the talk by suggesting the underlying reason of atheists could/should learn from religions. In the last 10 years, the atheists took those people believes God exists so seriously that they think they are having intellectual error and so they need a intellectual corrective. However, confessed as a atheists, Alain believed that questions about whether God exists or not is not the most interesting one. The greater question is where and how we are going to live a good life. Usually the atheists will keep strong hold of not to step any foot into religions and vice versa. But Alain suggested a different strategy - a pick and mix approach. We can simply select the best bits from religions and make use of them for a better life. It is based on a rationale that religion is merely a cultural product. And so it is nothing wrong to choose among them like any other cultural products li...

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